Just to briefly update, I’m out of work until sept! Yay! So I planned on getting Keegan on a schedule at home with potty training, early intervention, the works! Even Little Gym is in our scheduled time! Today we started Little Gym and at first I thought it was going to be a disaster because we had a meltdown for 10 minutes waiting for our group to start
We pulled it together, and had an amazing day! We even went to Sams Club for an hour after that without any trouble. Sometimes as a mom of a child with special needs, I forget that kids are kids, unique or typical. And sometimes I rush through every day situations because I don’t want to give anyone the opportunity to say hurtful things to/ about my KeegerButt. But in most cases other parents are not worried about it, I am. There are those mean nasty ignorant people that exsist, but hopefully there is more understanding in the world now a days. Because Keegan is perfect, and no one needs to change that ♡
My smiley boy
Since it’s been awhile I figured I would update my blog. Keegan will be starting school in September and my Addy girl will be receiving services come September as well. Mr. Dad is finding his roll in the family and it has been well for all, which is all I ever wanted or could ask for. Seems like everything is falling into place and them BOOM! A guy in a suit showed up on the front step handing me a summons in regards to my landlords. I adore my landlords, they are amazing people and I DID know something about this event, but I didn’t realize it was this close to happening. The house I’m renting is now in foreclosure and I need to move…again. We have moved way too much over the past 10 years and I don’t really want to do it anymore. So sadly I have to pack up my crap and find yet another place to live. It makes me nauseous because it’s hard to find these days, and now I worry about school districts. I want to stay in my school district because frankly I don’t want to be in the district I work in. So finding a house with a yard in my school district, that also accepts dogs…impossible. So now I have alot to get done in a shorter amount of time and when I thought all hope was lost BOOM! I found the house of my families dreams! It has 3 BR’s and 2 bathrooms, 2 story house next to a stream and all sorts of usable land. I fell in love when I seen it and am waiting very impatiently to hear back from them. I’m hoping for good things to come my families way, and getting this house would be the start of that.
Prince Hiccup the Horrible just happens to be scared of kittens, and little kids on scooters 🙂 Ada Girl is the white doggie who just happens to know sign language because I taught her since she is deaf ♡
Thank goodness for warm weather finally! My poor children have been cooped up because of this dreaded winter and we are ready for the park! Poor Keegan has awful allergies, and due to his lack of communication he has been having plenty O’ meltdowns. I’m thinking about trying a holistic doctor with him but I’m not sure yet, need to get more info regarding it. He has been eating more vegetables, his sister too, because all veggies are awesome in Cobb form! I’m also getting back into my artsy stuff again because I usually get lots of inspiration during the warm weather. And of course with warm weather comes allergies and I’m in the process of finding out what is the matter with ME. I think it might be candida overgrowth, but again…need to find out more info. I suppose I will get going on all my info look ups! In the mean time hope everyone has a good day!
I went on my blog today and noticed one of my ranting posts never made it onto my page, and thought since I posted that one so late, I should post another one. Since then many good things have happened, like Keegan is all set to start school at Center for Spectrum Services, which is a school specifically tailored for people on the spectrum. He starts in September, and I’m relieved to say I didn’t have a fight for that. Dad( meaning My humans’ dad), has become a very big part in our lives once again, at a slow and steady pace as to insure the little humans feelings. Besides me frying my hair, everything has been positive for the kids. Recently a young man who attended high school were I work was killed in combat, in Afghanistan. He was only 24. I couldn’t imagine what that would feel like as a parent, and my thoughts and prayers are with his family. So sad when a family goes through something so devastating. Our entire community pulled together to show the family how much we appreciated him, and how sad we were for their loss. With that, I’m going to put the blog away and spend time with my bathed and sleepy favey humans ♡
After I mentioned in one of my posts about not experiencing pure ignorance directly, I was hit a few times with it yesterday. Starting at the bank, the women on the phone says,” oh it’s ok if you bring your son, he will be fine here.”
Well just as I suspected it wasn’t ok, because Keegan wanted to climb down the stairs head first into a line of 5 people. He wasn’t worried about the people in his way. The woman I spoke to was very nice but when I mentioned the big A- word all she kept saying was how sorry she was. I know ignorance doesn’t know, but I wanted to yell. Then I look at those people standing on line, now staring at my son and I. Again, did they not get the memo?
The numbers are now 1 in every 68 kids are diagnosed with some form of autism spectrum disorder. 68! That’s another impressive jump from 2012. But let’s start counting the numbers of ignorance in our society, I would love to hear those numbers on the radio in the morning.
“1 in 68 kids are autistic, BUT 1 in every 12 individuals are ignorant. Who really lives in society today and have no idea about autism???Seriously people, you just plain look uneducated.”
When they decide to make that radio commercial, sign me up, it would be fun to do 🙂
Here is another thing I hear a lot of, being a single mom of two kids, one of which has autism.
“Wow how do you do it by yourself? That’s terrible I’m sorry.”
That’s terrible? What’s terrible? That my son has autism or that I’m alone? Let’s set the record straight: my son is the coolest kid walking and non – verbally communicating, and being a single mom is tough for anyone, not just an autism mom. So I force myself to believe that people just really have no idea, and not that they are pure idiots. A single mom with two kids, typical or not, has a tough and rewarding job. But I’m no superhero. I can go from sleeping to not sleeping in a single screech but that could be my only super power. My kids are super heroes and neither of them need fixing. My 2 year old son has moderate Autism and has always had it. I love him unconditionally, screechy or not. Talking or not, stimming or not. My 6 year old daughter has the patience of a saint and isn’t quite sure how to handle her brother, but when he interacts and hugs her, you would think she just won a prize, and she kinda did.
There is ignorance everywhere sadly, it is the most annoying disease out there. Some have it because they don’t know, when some choose to live in it. So I choose to be ignorant about ignorant people. Like they aren’t standing and staring at all. They do not exsist. My guess we will wipe out the population if we continue to ignore them. What’s important for people to know about me and my family:
1. Not all kids that are loud are unhappy
2. Not all kids that are silent are unhappy
3. Just because someone’s child is loud OR silent, does NOT mean that mom or dad is unhappy.
This is my happy KeegerButt 🙂
This is my happy Addy Pants 🙂
This is a happy Autism Mom 🙂
Growing up, I lived in a small neighborhood called high falls park. My best friends lived in my neighborhood with me, and we never had any problems, ever. Now I’m a mom living in a neighborhood that I love with 2 kids who enjoy the park that is 2 blocks from our house. But their are people everywhere that still do not have any idea what Autism is, or what it could possibly look like. And that bothers me a great deal. I have never been personally affected by someone saying hurtful things to me regarding my son, except the one time that a women went out of her way to come into my line at shop rite to tell me I need to watch my son better. Really? Do people think doing this to others is ok? Well I dont, and I have been busying myself with big plans that could possibly help the Autism community a great deal, and just this morning I made a break through. I will go more in detail about once I meet with my parent group, because families of Autistic children is the community members I want to help, families like mine and my KeegerButt. So their input is what makes it our breaks it. All I know is right now I have a family run business that offered to help me in getting my ideas off the ground, which is amazing and it warms my heart to know amazing people like this still exist in my community. I will write more later…
It’s been awhile since I have written, and it’s because I have been so busy…Being boring. Now that Keegan is all better, everything has returned to normal at our house. Even better than that, really. A friend and her daughter came for homemade pesto pizza at my house last night, and none of us got to bed before 11. I figured I would be dragging today, but I had a sound sleep all night, and the first time Keegan made a noise was when he crawled into my bed to snuggle at 8:45! I was amazed, and he has been a happy boy all day, laughing at everything. So even though there wasn’t anything spectacular happening, there wasn’t anything negative happening either and I am truly grateful for days like today. I sit sipping a glass of wine watching “Free Birds” with happy and calm humans getting snuggly in the couch and almost ready for bed. Life is good in this corner of the world.